Let me tell you one of the things I hate the most. When you are trying to grow + glow and live a lit + fabulous life and someone wants to come and strike out all ten pins of happiness. “Remember when you used to…” or “Girl, she think she something but I remember way back when…” Listen, Linda. Stop it. Just stop it. Won’t get a strike here. It’ll be a straight gutter ball. Let me fill ya’ll in on a little secret that some of us haven’t realized yet: We all have a past.

We all have made mistakes at one point or another. There are decisions that we all have made long-ago that we wince when looking back. Even if your screw ups were “better” than someone else’s, that doesn’t give you the right to judge. And if you’re the one who has screwed up the most *slowly raises hand*, you still deserve to completely relish in the fact that you conquered your past and are doing better. If you are doing everything that you can to be better + do better, for yourself and for your relationships (whether it be romantic or platonic), I salute you. Just know not everyone is going to see it. Not everyone is going to respect it. Not everyone is going to like it. But at the end of the day, you have to keep moving. You have to keep loving yourself. You have to keep treating yourself fairly. You have to keep giving yourself grace. You have to keep forgiving yourself. I mean truly forgiving yourself. Embrace the fact that they were all lessons learned.

If you know that you are doing all that you can to be that better person and someone still has a problem with you or you still aren’t “measuring up” for them, please, in the wise words of Elsa, let it go. In this case, them. Life will bring us enough headaches on its own. Don’t allow someone to give you any extras. Believe in yourself. Believe in your worth. Believe it in enough to know that you don’t need any validation from anybody.

Become confident in yourself + your growth. And don’t let a single soul let you think you’re not worthy because of who you were “way back when.” Hell, or even for who you are now. You are worthy now + you were worthy then.

And don’t you ever let anyone make you believe otherwise.